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Nowadays, more than half of all mothers with infants work. And even more mothers with older babies and children are working. How did you navigate the transition? Help other new mothers by sharing your story on womenshealth.gov!
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October 16, 2010 01:24 AM
I used to be a workaholic, and I did not notice time passing by. I worked so hard to make it to the top of the corporate ladder, but there was something missing. At the age of 39, I still had no baby. I was quite frustrated that I had all the money in the world and I had fulfilled my dreams, but I was not happy.
Quitting my job was the best decision of my life. I became a housewife, and after 2 years I had baby. It was very difficult to adapt at first, but it's about setting priorities and goals. I am a full-time housewife now, and I spend my time with my baby and making a blog to share my story.
I hope that my story will inspire you and change the way you live. Life is short, and it is not only our dreams and money that makes us happy. It is our loved ones that most of the time we don't notice. Cheers
March 30, 2010 11:11 AM
I had twelve weeks of maternity leave, so I went back when my daughter was almost three months old. She went to her grandparents' home while I was at work. Many days, I would try to leave around lunchtime so that I could go see her and nurse her, but that wasn't always possible. I missed her terribly, though it was good to get out and do something besides just being a parent. I wished, and still wish, I could have worked half-time for the first year or so.
Just saying the words "I missed her" doesn't really convey how grief-stricken I felt when I started going back to work. We'd spent those first three months together for almost every waking moment, and the idea that I was going to start missing large parts of her life was heartbreaking. It does get better, though. Being with her grandparents (and later, in a good day care) has been a great experience for her -- she's happy and healthy and learning a lot, and is her own person. I don't need to be with her every second to love her or know her or be her mom, just as I don't need to be with my husband every second. Don't let anyone tell you you're not your child's mother if you work outside the home. Believe me, you are, and your child knows it and loves you.
March 18, 2010 10:45 AM
Returning to work was a little difficult for a while, especially dropping off a 6-week old at daycare. Had a really hard time with it. Now, she's almost 2 years old. Getting everything done at home after work is nearly impossible sometimes. Honestly, I just don't feel the same about working. Need to make money to support my family but would like to spend more time with the little one also.
October 14, 2008 11:16 AM
Before I had my baby, the 8-week maternity leave I had arranged with my employer seemed like an eternity. But after giving birth to my beautiful son, that time flew by in a blink of an eye. Although I only had to take care of myself and my new son, it took me at least 6 weeks to feel somewhat human again. No one can prepare a new mother for the exhaustion she will feel in those first few weeks. Once I felt well-rested enough to enjoy my new baby, I only had a couple weeks more before I needed to be back on the job. Thankfully, I already had daycare arranged. So I used this time to practice pumping (I was breastfeeding) and feeding my baby with a bottle. To be honest, I was looking forward to going back to work. But I felt guilty for feeling this way. And I was scared that I couldn't handle the demands of my job and the demands of a new baby — especially with limited sleep. Even so, I knew that we couldn't afford to have me stay home full-time. I also knew that I liked working and that it was an important source of personal fulfillment. So, now, when I feel guilty about leaving my son and heading off to work in the morning (and I still do sometimes), I remind myself that all his basic needs are being met. He is in a safe and loving environment. And it turns out, I have more energy to give to him at the end of the workday then I did when I was at home with him all day long. I think that's better for both of us.
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